Is it so hard to say thank you?

I suspect I am having a menopausal moment but over the last few days I have had good reason to either reply to or email others with information that is useful.

I can see with the FB private messaging that those ones have been viewed, but obviously not the email ones. However absolutely none of these people have actually bothered to reply with a thanks and I'm feeling rather peeved off.

Has social and electronic media conditioned us to forget the basic niceties? Do we now expect all information to be so readily available we have forgotten to acknowledge when a person supplies the answer to what we want to know?

Thankyou

People sometimes email me from out of the blue - via the website with questions about farming or birds - and on several occasions there's not even been a preliminary please! It's hard to answer those ones with generosity, when they entirely lack manners. Did their parents teach them nothing?

I second that - and then there's the expectation that, because you've obviously had (some) success with something - growing stuff, breeding animals, setting up a business, whatever - that you now have to offer free advice to any Tom, Dick and Harry with a hankering to do the same, and at a time of their choosing.

One guy came up to me the other day and explained he's decided to plant blueberries (since they sell at such a good price!) , and since i already had an orchard, he'd come by after the market to take cuttings to grow his own. Never met the dude before.

BB, that's outrageous!

yeah, well, I take it my response was pretty clear - never saw the guy again, either

There are encounters I have a hard time not asking 'what rock did you crawl from under?" ....

but mostly, I just marvel at the creativity of some thought processes []

BB.. wow..the cheek..

reminds me of the lady who regularly took cuttings from plants at our last local nursery..owners miffed, but hadn't caught her at it...
she had the barefaced cheek to rock in one day and ask if they had found her seceturs that she had lost on her last visit![:0]

where do people get off thinking they can get for free what others have spent a lifetime working towards?

Ooops! - that's a bad one, too []

I have been known to ogle a nice plant with greed in a garden setting - but a nursery?!? - i mean, if it's available for sale, and you want it, then by all means buy it! (or go home and start saving your pennies)

i get tempted when i see plants i would love to own, but have not found for sale anywhere - so far...

(They do get fewer and farther between though, somehow. [] [])

When I was young I used to stand in red faced embarrassment as Mum leant over fences to take cuttings while we walked to school. Then I did the same to my children..... []
Nowadays I just knock on the door. I've never been turned away and often get a tour of the garden and a few extra cuttings. Gardeners are such nice people

I completely agree with those of you, above, who are railing against the ignorance shown online by those (and it seems like the majority) who are seeking 'free' information. By and large it would appear that, except on very rare occasions, no-one is ever going to thank you, regardless of how much trouble you go to.
I've had a number of people contact me in the past, relating to things I've mentioned in the forums here. (I don't wish to give a concrete example because the mere mention of a key-word highlights it as a target for yet another Google search).
I've given-up responding because I've learnt you can go to an awful lot of trouble for, usually, very little thanks.
It was along similar lines that I made a comment to a forum question a little while back.
www.lifestyleblock.co.nz/lsb-forum/showthread.php?t=41064
This resulted in a bit of a protest from the 'pc brigade' but I would also point out that again in this instance the original poster only ever appeared once and has not visited since.
Unfortunately, the internet has trained people to believe that everything is there for free. If only they knew just how they were actually paying (by being 'harvested' in subtle, subliminal ways).

Hmmmm ..... an interesting topic. I help with a charitable organisation, but I firmly believe that recipients of charity that the person has asked for be acknowledged with a note or presentation to our organisation about how the money was spent, how we would be able to better, whether our help did make life better for them, just some sort of thank you. But others in my organisation do not realise that giving thanks is a learned experience, so they don't support me much. As an example, my son the now doctor was given $2500 and I organised with the Blenheim people for him to come to a meeting, whci they in Blenheim got around to doing quite promptly. He then moved to Nelson and got another $2500, but no matter how much I tried the Nelson people were not willing to make a small effort on their part to fit him in to one of their meetings. Very strange... and no lesson to my son about how important a thank you is.

I answer what must be now approaching hundreds of enquiries to our website/webstore which result in my email being opened/viewed (we monitor this) but no purchase or even thanks results.

Think upon this similarly to, "If you lend someone a 'tenner' and never see them again, look upon this as money well spent!" :cool:

If you're selling goods or services online I would think that being messed-around by tyre-kickers is just a facet of running the business.
What I'm talking about, specifically, is those people in Forums such as this one who are drawn into being helpful without any expectation of reward, apart from perhaps, a thank-you or an acknowledgement that your effort has been sighted.
It's not that any thanks are necessary but it would be nice if you knew for sure that you were actually talking to someone.

Anakei;515162 wrote: When I was young I used to stand in red faced embarrassment as Mum leant over fences to take cuttings while we walked to school. Then I did the same to my children..... []
Nowadays I just knock on the door. I've never been turned away and often get a tour of the garden and a few extra cuttings. Gardeners are such nice people

i can so relate to that one, Anakei - both ends of that spectrum, in fact!! []

when i was a kid, my mum grew - with little to no money to spare - a beautiful flower garden, from whence thousands of even more beautiful flower arrangements came forth to be given to friends, acquaintances, and to decorate many a venue at local evens. She also freely shared cuttings with whoever asked. But God help anyone trying to help themselves to her flowers!!![}][][:0]

I think a lot of this comes from the texting age.
No longer does the younger generation interact or communicate, just send a text in terrible short hand [that really annoys me]
So everything is succinct and no preliminaries such as please or thank you
Its becoming the modern way

muri;515295 wrote: I think a lot of this comes from the texting age.
No longer does the younger generation interact or communicate, just send a text in terrible short hand [that really annoys me]
So everything is succinct and no preliminaries such as please or thank you
Its becoming the modern way

thnx [8D]