I've thrown in the day job...
Following a succession of overnighting visitors I am on my own for the first time since quitting and feeling a tad hollow (although pleased the washing that comes with having visitors to stay is almost done).
I am planning on getting stuck into the garden, trying new recipes and we have a huge amount of fencing to undertake over the next few months.
I have promised to get myself out regularly for a ''me'' trip.
For those quilters amongst you I also want to start sewing another quilt this winter and will go along to our local craft group to see what they are all doing as well as a visit to Grandmas garden at Gordontown.
I thought I would ask those who have thrown in the towel at the external place of employment how you felt and what did you get up to when you left the job?
There has always been some kind of project on to keep me busy including computer courses, food and wine courses (a 4 month one when I first chucked it all in), building raised vege gardens, putting up glasshouse, plant propogation course (starts tonight), project managing our last house build..........
My theory is if I'm at home and not earning money I can at least be saving us money. So I grow lots of our veges from seed and try to keep on top of the vege gardens and fruit trees. Heaps of bottling, preserving, jams, freezing, home baking, bread making which I never seemed to get time for when working. I can help out at school with the kids when they need it (and they always do). Have also done the odd stint of contracting work. Its amazing how fast your day fills in and I don't seem to get much sit down time.
All the best to you. I'm sure you'll find heaps to do on your lsb. My current wee project is pulling together the house plans and contractors for our lsb build. I'm expecting I will never run out of things to do once we move there.
igor;458225 wrote: Wish I could afford to do the same swaggie. I would miss the crew at the office (well most of them) but I would get a lot more done at home.
I'm a bit worried about that too, but like Cantabcook I plan on hooking into the vege patch and broadening my cooking skills to save where I can. I found I was buying lunch every day which added to the outgoings.
I've found a number of other jobs I do from home since, which earn income and take up yet more time, but are flexible enough to fit around important times like cow mating and calving and lambing in the years we do that.
I left the workforce when we were going into the recession and financially I could handle it. I was heard to tell people " there are so many more people out there with children to feed and mortgages to pay that they need the jobs more than I do". I believed that sincerely but I am not so sure down the line that we should not be more selfish in the world and look after ourselves first. I left it in a way to being too big a break (despite being happy) and I know you are younger than I am but my advise would be (in hindsight), don't isolate yourself in this new world that you find you have lost your confidence to be a valuable employee and deserve it. We are all well aware of the rubbish service we are receiving these days by paying the minimum wage. If you believe in yourself and your ability to add value and be respected for that to a Company, don't cut off your options. Hope that makes sense.
Enjoy your new life - I'm sure you've deserved it.
Good exercise for the heart is to bend down and help someone up. Anon.
i didnt realise just how stressed i was and how it was affecting my health until i quit ..
i wouldnt have described it as culture shock with me, more grief.. so have been struggling with feeling depressed etc.. but am keeping up looking for work and keeping in touch with friends and family that i didnt have time for previously..
i am sure i will be able to look back and say.. "best move ever" but cant see that at the moment, but it is a journey and never know what might turn up next...
One thing we found was it costs more to work than you realize, from running a car to dressing for work, it is far less costly living at home and doing the garden so good luck and enjoy your new hard labor, sorry retirement.
Just me and the cat now, on 2 acres of fruit and veg + hazel nuts, macadamia, chestnuts and walnuts,
Not being a family now (mine are adults) how much can you get from one partner working from Working For Families benefit?. No idea but this is how our world is going isn't it? If people can be quoted saying they are on $100,000 a year and can't survive without WFF, then what kind of screwed world are we in?
I've been in the workforce for 40 years competently doing a range of office-based jobs, being regularly promoted etc and never being without a job. I've got a good skill set and a 'customer service' attitude that you'd think employers would kill for. But in the relatively short time I've been out of work I've found that hearing about all the skilled people that can't get an interview for even simple jobs, all the layoffs, new school leavers coming on board, age discrimination etc, my confidence in being able to pick up a job has zoomed way down the scale to the point where I'm absolutely dreading looking. It's not the effort required in looking that's the issue, but the feeling of worthlessness that I'm sure will come if I can't pick something up.
The other thing that concerns me is that my DH and I have always shared the responsibility for bringing in our income. All of a sudden he's bearing that on his own and I worry about the pressure that's going to put on him as we really start to struggle to make ends meet on less than half the figure DiDi mentioned in her last post.
So it's really a double-edged sword for us - wonderful for me being home, but at a significant and not just financial cost. However, there IS an upside - you realise that you can do without so many of the unnecessary and wasteful things that we're constantly being encouraged to buy, and just how pleasurable a simple life can be, where as long as you can meet the mortgage, insurances, rates, electricity and phone bills, and can feed yourself from your garden and animals, you're doing well.
Good exercise for the heart is to bend down and help someone up. Anon.
I've managed to pick up short-term uni contracts ranging from a week to several weeks over the past few years, but its tough. The confidence gets knocked, you have people telling you that you are so good but if you can't get a job then they believe that something is actually wrong with you. I've had my MIL say I should lower my standards...I gritted my teeth during that conversation[}][!][!]: I've looked at cleaning (over qualified), at retail (too old), at McDees (too old AND over qualified)...I've even applied for positions and left any hint of academic success off the CV - came back I'm still too old!
On the good side, I've managed to get a hell of a lot of maintenance done around our place: the entire outside of the house has been painted, the inside being started now, fences have been fixed, spraying has been done etc. At least with me at home hubby can relax on weekends (as I've done everything during the week), though we have always been equal in bringing in the dosh and I see him stressing sometimes. The good thing is when we bought the parents in laws place I worked it out that we could manage it on one income (his), anything I earned would merely allow us to do the very delayed maintenance to the place. I find out next week if funding came through for me to work with one of my past supervisors for a few months....it will be good to get away from the place, but at the same time I have to spend $ on some better clothes and it means the inside will be delayed being finished. BUT it will give me the $ to finish the inside, plus purchase two sets of new french doors.
I don't have a OH that can assist on the income front.. in fact I have been the sole breadwinner for years, going backwards fast and we are now considering having to sell our wee bit of paradise
having said that, there is no point in me taking a 40k job in the city, when the cost of getting there is more than that.. I also consider a 2 hour trip each way ( motorway traffic ) to negate any financial benefit...
I did a wee calculation, and found that realistically it costs in the region of 30kpa more to work in the city than to work locally..
OH is a double degree holding computer programmer.. cant even get a help desk job.. all the new graduates coming thru why would someone employ an old man with only 8 years working life till retirement.. grrrrr
Because the old guy is likely to stick with them for all of those eight years, saving them re-employment costs when three or four of the new grads go on to pastures greener ...
stephclark;458495 wrote: ...all the new graduates coming thru why would someone employ an old man with only 8 years working life till retirement.. grrrrr