Egg donation

Ever looked at your kids and thought how lucky you are and how much joy they have bought into your life? I get to do this all the time and am so grateful for each of the blessings I have been given.

My heart breaks for the people who would make the most fab parents but have for various reasons been robbed of this opportunity, most after several years of trying and various fertility treatments. This is why I have decided to become an egg donor.

I have found a lovely couple in Auckland, and we have begun cycling for egg pick up at the end of this month!! It will be a dreadful two weeks of waiting after that when we find out if Miss M is pregnant or not.

For anyone who is under 38 and has spare eggs, or who's husband is really good looking (PMSL) who wants to donate sperm (cause there is actually not that many out there) feel free to ask me any questions and I will do my best to answer them for you.

So far I have been on the pill for about 14 days for the first 7 was feeling a bit ho hum, but now back to normal. I start injecting myself on Wednesday. I did a practice injection at the clinic and felt so dumb, cause I was really worried about being able to do this (haha cause I do all the animal ones here and still worried about my own) I didn't even feel the needle go in it was that pathetic!! Miss M (my recipient) has had an injection to down regulate her cycle to match mine, and is on the pill as well. She will come off this soon and will have to have blood tests to make sure she is ready

Anyway any questions please ask, there are so many wonderful people out there that need to experience the love of a child in their lives.

One of my neighbours talked a lot about becoming a surrogate, partly because of her own easy pregnancies and partly because she knew a couple who both had an inherited condition that destroyed foetuses. That must have been heart breaking. My neighbour also had endometriosis and pregnancy was one way to get 9 months relief from this medical condition.
In the end though, she didn't go through with surrogacy.

Jen, in a world that is rapidly becoming over populated, and where food is becoming an increasing and costly problem, the land to produce it is diminishing, energy useage is outstripping the ability to produce it, I can only say that I find your thread verging on the offensive and thoughtless.

Even if I were young enough there is no way I would subscribe to this - if nature has intended that they can't have children, so be it. They accept that and move on. Forget the emotional clap trap and face the reality. We cannot afford for modern technology to be producing more children than can be sustained - and here you are promoting it. So sorry, I don't take my hat off to you for giving somebody the chance to "experience the love of a child in their lives".

Cheers,
Ronnie

Jen when I was at varsity one of my fellow students donated and the couple were blessed with twins, she now has her own child and it reinforces for her the joy that she was able to help someone else with. I wish you and the recipient well.

Ronney do your comments extend to not providing any medical treatment as it will prolong a life that might have ended and avoided overpopulation, this should of course include all medications as otherwise you would be contravening natures law.

Wow I think I just posted my first contentious lifestyleblock comment, not sure how I feel about that, but it is done.

Goodness Jen, you sure like to live dangerously woman - talk about a loaded gun of a topic!

IMHO if one was pursuing the overpopulation argument and not considering the compassionate thought behind offers to donate eggs, one could look at it from the point of view that donating eggs makes up for all those of us who could have children but, having not any desire at all to become parents, decide not to. Would that balance things out? []

Cheers, Mich.

Im wondering in the future how many will end up unkowingly marrying siblngs.

Of all the people in the world that could help a childless couple produce / fulfill a dream to have their own treasure to cherish, I would say you would be THE one.

I do not have children, but I have many kids [], have never even had the remotest feeling towards maternalism(word?). There are others on here that I believe feel the same, there will be many around the world also.
The world should be grateful you were not one.

In my life I have met, and dealt with, thousand of children, and some really weird parents []. I am not know as the most tolerant towards children either but your children are the best that I have ever come across. They are a credit to you and P. May anyone that gets your eggs be lucky to even get half the genes your kids have.
Good luck with the "donation"

Ronney;363997 wrote: Jen, in a world that is rapidly becoming over populated, and where food is becoming an increasing and costly problem, the land to produce it is diminishing, energy useage is outstripping the ability to produce it, I can only say that I find your thread verging on the offensive and thoughtless.

Even if I were young enough there is no way I would subscribe to this - if nature has intended that they can't have children, so be it. They accept that and move on. Forget the emotional clap trap and face the reality. We cannot afford for modern technology to be producing more children than can be sustained - and here you are promoting it. So sorry, I don't take my hat off to you for giving somebody the chance to "experience the love of a child in their lives".

Cheers,
Ronnie

Oh Ronnie, this makes me feel so sad. It makes me feel sad because the concept behind your theories when explored does not stack up. If every couple in this country only had one child, then the population would decrease by 50% every generation, then we run into the problem of not enough services and people to care for the aging population etc (there are numerous papers on the situation in Japan if you are interested just google). The truth is we actually need children to continue to run the country. What are the statistics in New Zealand for population maintenance or replacement? I remember a discussion late last year on National Radio where it said we were not replacing the population in this country.

I agree with your sentiment, in that there are countries where overpopulation and culture of reproduction is an issue. New Zealand is not one of them.

For the record, I can afford my children, and so can the couple that will be bringing this new child into the world.

Never in a million years when I started this thread did I ever consider I would get a response like this.

Farmer53, this is an open donation, and my family intend to keep in contact with my recipients family. The is no chance what-so-ever that this will occur for us. I cannot speak for the people that donate to anon couples, only that at 18 years old the resulting child can have the information of their donor by request. I don't see how this is any different from anon adoption though, except that this child is the biological child of the father.

@spook what a lovely thing to say, you gave me warm fuzzies which I so needed!

i would like to clone my kids

I am sorry but I feel this is wrong ...along with a lot of other so called advancements that science has enabled us to do ...Just my personal feelings on a very personal and sensitive subject ...
I understand and commend your reasons for wanting to help childless couples though Jen ...but this still just does not sit right in my conscience.
Incidently our youngest daughter and her hubby have chosen to be childless ...much to my dismay []
Cheers

Jen, good on you. Your option involves a lot more work and is more invasive than sperm donation!

Speaking of cloning kids, does anyone else think that Tom and Katie Cruise's daughter Suri is a suspiciously exact replica of her mother?