- Toni - Northland
My kids, who are all older teenagers (or older) now, were watching one of those nanny programmes that were on a few months back. Actually watching is the wrong word, interacting with programme maybe? anyway they were growling at the parents on these programmes, yelling even, because. to them, it was so obvious:D It was so un-nerving hearing ALL our parenting comments coming out of the kids mouths that I had to go to the kitchen for a wine and a giggle[:0] Well it went really quiet so I went back in to find out what I'd been doing wrong only to have five pairs of accusing eyes looking at me <gulp> They hadn't realized that it was selp-preservation (hands up all those who've taken five kids to the supermarket) that had me detailing them off to get specific things, work out what was cheapest etc. They've been doing this since they were toddlers and thought it was fun but hadn't twigged it was a parenting tecknique. oops.
Strange how much you've got to know, Before you know how little you know.
- Toni - Northland
As a stepmother, mother, and recently returned from a week's holiday with friends' children I think it's best to be very cautious about getting involved with "parenting" other people's children. I think the advice to prompt the children to say thank you by saying "Thanks for coming etc" is very good!
quote:Originally posted by Isla
Since this is probably a topic parents will read, I shall ask your advice: two children came here for a visit, were entertained, taken on an expedition and when the visit was over, went straight out and sat in their car; no thank you, nothing. What does the non-parent adult do in such a situation? We like to provide such opportunities for the children, but it gets a little trying when there is such a lack of ordinary manners.