adding 'friends'' to profiles on other websites..

tonight I received a request on a popular website (not this one sorry) to allow a relative on SOH's side to join my group as a friend.

Under normal circumstances I wouldn't worry, but we don't hear from this person on any basis, my SOH is alienated from that side of the family, and it would have taken considerable searching for the family member to find my profile as its under my maiden name and not married surname.... and its MINE, not ours. SOH says stuff em.

so I thought I would open this debate to a poll. We haven't had one for a while eh... cheers

Can you get rid of them again if you change your mind? I've never had enough time or the inclination to figure out how those networks work. If anyone wants to find me, it's hardly difficult!

Ditto Isla. I simply can't be bothered. There aren't enough hours in a day, and I already spend too much time on the computer.

Andrea
Oxford

Swaggie ... i guess it depends on the site ... um like yahoo messenger or msn .. you can delete them from your friends list, but that doesnt mean they delete you, so they still know your on , but you can block them i guess ... one would have to wonder why they spent all that effort to track you down though... if SOH is not good with that part of family, i would tend to agre with him .. stuff em

I remain confused about such things, and so I just delete any... would you like to be my friend ...messages that come my way... and then poof its gone and I have no idea who wanted my friendship.. which really is a non event these days, and they never try again, so it must have been very superficial in the first place.

There's not an option for never been in that situation!

If there's doubt don't add them, if you decide to you can 'un' friend them

Why not get in touch some other way maybe chance to mend a bridge before to late as my late mother did

sod;233708 wrote: Why not get in touch some other way maybe chance to mend a bridge before to late as my late mother did

some time ago we allowed the person to be a ''friend'' on SOH's oldfriends profile, and never heard anything from it. having borne the brunt of the abuse that was dealt out at the time, I am reluctant to take it further.

Sometimes in life you cannot change (fix) things that are in the past, and sometimes its a good idea not to even try.

I have answered my own question really.....:rolleyes:

Yes I get asked on another site but I never add anyone unless they are family or people I know well. On this site, I have just not gone there - no real reason - just that I come on the site to read the forum mainly and know that I have my info out there if any member wants to contact me - and welcome too - but day to day - I just don't do the "friends" thingie. If I need you, I know how to get in contact with you (PM or email) and you me.

Yes having a chat with thyself out loud [click of keyboard there] can put one on the right track often... I bet it was just a slip of the click mouse that the person invited you .. so dont lose sleep over their maybe trying to restore things.. [heehee]