Don't want to be morbid, but....

We've recently had a bit of sickness in our extended family and some of the family members have been looking into burial plots and booking in as such! Now this has got me thinking...should my generation be organizing things for themselves? (Very early 40's) So last night I downloaded a lot of music to have in my folder so at least they know what sort of music i want should it happen. Perhaps i should write down my requests? Don't really like to think about it, but I'd like to have some say in the matter!

And no....they will not be playing "Ding dong the witch is dead"...even tho' the other half thought it would be ideal!!

scooter;164588 wrote: And no....they will not be playing "Ding dong the witch is dead"...even tho' the other half thought it would be ideal!!

I am going to personally sing that song at my yucky manipulative greedy
b i t c h of a sister in laws funeral, just before she goes to burn in hell.

Personally, I think it's an excellent idea.

When my cousin was in her final days, we decided to ask her (it was the worst thing I've ever done) what she would like us to do for her.

She told us to celebrate the fun we'd had, to play her favourite ABBA songs (I can now no longer listen to Dancing Queen), to take her for a last ride in her race car and to cremate her and scatter her ashes along the beach where we scattered her mother's ashes.

It made several of us younger people think, would anyone know what we wanted if (god forbid) we were hit by a bus, or some other sudden tragedy. So my brother has my wishes for songs and a poem and I have his, and several of our friends and family our own age did the same (we're all in our 30s).

Weirdly, several family members all chose the same song (and didn't discuss it beforehand)... Another One Bites the Dust, by Queen. We are an odd bunch though[]

Toni I've got a Biarch of a SIL I'll be saving it for too....in fact there may be a chorus of singers singing their hearts out...hehehe

Sorry about that, had to rant.[xx(]

Back to the subject. I think it is a good idea to pre plan your funeral. I have started to put on paper what I want and what songs I want also. It is a bit morbid thinking about it, but after a recent family experience I decided I would do it, to save any arguments. I would want a celebration, with party to follow, AND we are going to be brought home first.

I think this is an excellent subject to discuss.

I am going to personally sing that song at my yucky manipulative greedy
b i t c h of a sister in laws funeral, just before she goes to burn in hell.

I attended the funeral of someone recently, who I can guarantee had everyone thinking this would be the most appropriate song to play... but actually it turned out to be quite a nice affair - the "elephant in the room" was acknowledged, although gently, and people came from one end of the country to the other to pay their respects (I wondered if she'd been nicer & less selfsh when she was younger).

I want shoop shoop diddy wop at mine. for no other reason than it is absurd.

What is the consensus of asking someone not to attend a funeral? (Yes Toni's post reminded me) We have had this discussion a few times here, and the SOH reckons despite not wanting certain people at his "do", that One cannot ask such things...

What is the consensus of asking someone not to attend a funeral?

Interestingly, I've struck this at another recent funeral (the selfish b*tch wasn't my sister, if anyone's wondering, it was my brother's mother-in-law), anyhow, the unwelcome person didn't make an appearance, and probably realised they'd be uncomfortable.

Swaggie in some places it is by invite only

I've known for years the song that i want played at mine....Meatloaf, where angels sing.
I've always made sure that my now ex hubby and my best friend know that thats what i want and that i want to be cremated....oh and yellow roses
I'm in my late 30's and everyone has always said "oh you won't die for ages etc etc" but strange as it may sound to most people i dreamt about my death and i'm not real old when it happens
Other than that i just want them all to have a major piss up and enjoy!

Both hubby & I have our songs organised as well.
Mine is "Dancing Queen" (ABBA) and hubbys is "The Rose" (Bette Midler)

and i'm not real old when it happens

May you now dream of being REAL old.

This reminds me of a meme I saw about what you'd like said at your funeral.

A mate suggested "Look - he's moving!"

Yes - "No Regrets, no tears goodbye, don't want you back, I'd only cryyyyy again..."